How to Raise a Chill Kid

You are a blessed parent if your kids doesn’t throw tantrums. As a mother, i could say that dealing with kid’s bad behavior is the worst duty of a parent. We all want our kids to behave and just chill. Learn how to raise a chill kid from this article.

Sure, you may have good reasons to get angry (traffic jams, job challenges, dropping your iPhone in the tub), but put yourself in your child’s shoes. Her life might be filled with all manner of frustrations: other kids who want to play with her stuff, grown-ups who end a playdate when she’s having fun, a big sibling who has privileges she can only dream about, and a whole world of things she hasn’t mastered, from brushing her teeth solo to making her own chocolate milk. It’s no wonder that young kids spend so much time in meltdown mode.

(C) Constant Contact

(C) Constant Contact

While you can’t eliminate the triggers that enrage her, you can teach a child as young as a 2 or 3 to control her temper. “Your job is to help her develop strategies for expressing and dealing with this powerful emotion,” says Dana Dorfman, Ph.D., a psychotherapist in New York City. Parents may be tempted to try to rein in their child’s reactions (“It’s just a game of Candy Land; you don’t have to get so upset about losing”), but doing so will probably just fuel her fury. Instead, you want to empathize while still emphasizing the importance of finding a better alternative to simply freaking out.

Kids who manage to stay composed when a maddening situation arises are better prepared to succeed in life. A study at the University of Pittsburgh, for example, showed that children who were good at regulating their emotions did better both academically and socially than those who had poor impulse control. And researchers at Arizona State University, in Tempe, found that such kids also tend to be more resilient in tough times.

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